Why is it that when you point out that someone has behaved like an asshole (of course you have used kinder words) you somehow become the asshole. It is as though by merely suggesting that someone was being dickish, you become the bearer of the label. I really want to understand this phenomenon so that I can better guard myself against it. Let’s look at the two scenarios; It is clear that when you act like an asshole and I rise above and ignore it, I am not praised for being the bigger person I merely get the consolation prize of not becoming the asshole that you just had the liberty of being. But if I initiate the assholeness, and you are the bigger person and ignore my behavior, I get to be an asshole with no repercussion. If you call me out on it, I can then dump on you and say you are hypersensitive or overreacting thus making you the asshole. For the sake of clarity, becoming an asshole by default is not a winning proposition. You must be the initiator to come out ahead.
Let it be said that on this day of September 5th, 2009 I am resigning as “Bigger Person” and will be running for “Asshole” effective immediately.
Word of the Day
capassity (kuh-pas-i-tee)
-noun
quality or state of being susceptible to a given treatment from an asshole.
